How Do You Know If Your Jealousy Has Gone Too Far?

"JEALOUSY" It acts like a poison that takes over your life and destroy your self-esteem. Jealousy happens when a person feels that a relationship that is of importance is threatened by someone else outside of the relationship (whether Romantic, platonic, friendship). Being jealous is not a rare emotion- many feel it now and then. Jealousy is very hard for people to control and is unattractive. It kills the love and has brought down even the strongest relationship.

Some situations in life set you up for instant jealousy. If you have a boyfriend or husband that openly flirts with other women or whom you know is cheating, you would have to be made of stone not to feel hurt and betrayed. Every guy likes it when you show that you want him around or don't want him with another girl, so he can handle some jealousy, but when a man tells you that you are being too jealous, it's probably true and you need to give him some space. 

Jealousy quickly becomes a problem when it gets out of hand:

• You find yourself constantly checking your partner's Facebook, Instagram or Twitter. It's ok if you check up on partner's page once in a while, but when his or her Facebook page is your internet browser's homepage that's a big problem. 
• You constantly call or text during the day just to find out where he or she is. He can't go anywhere alone, even if it's with friends for a while.
• You remember every female name he mentions and react. 
• His ex-girlfriends bother you. There's a reason she's the ex and you're the present girlfriend. 
• You're constantly questioning. It is natural for couples to want to keep tabs on each other to some degree, but there is a difference between loving attention and jealous suspicion. 

If one partner in the relationship always needs to know where the other person is, what she is doing and whom she is seeing, it is a sign of unhealthy obsession. A partner who questions his significant other with suspicion, demands unreasonable levels of detail in her answers and does not believe what she tells him is showing signs of jealousy.

If your partner is already complaining about this then you really are taking your jealously too far. They'll find a way to get around your high prison walls without offending you. This they will do by lying to you about their whereabouts. Focus on that and stop being jealous. Naturally, jealous people always try to justify their actions or the reasons behind spying on their partners.

Sometimes men lie. Actually, most times, men lie, but when a man says you're too jealous, he's saying it because he's feeling choked or because you're being too possessive. Jealousy will make you crazy, it can make you physically sick and unable to focus on anything else.

Jealousy is not the same thing as love. Sometimes, people think that by feeling jealous about someone, they are loving him or her by being possessive or wanting ownership over the person. It is not love; it's the fear of losing out or being abandoned.

Rather than letting jealousy infect your relationship with others, use its appearance as a reason to work on yourself and to understand the fears that drives it. If you find yourself obsessing on his life and what he's doing, it's a sure sign you are not paying attention to your own. Jealousy is not worth ruining a relationship over.