NO MORE ROOM IN THE CLOSET: It's time to come out!

Coming out the closet may be one of the most difficult decisions in your life. Whether you're bisexual or homosexual, you're a gem, thats above all else. Don't hide yourself behind a door of fear, there isn't a reason to. The closet is a VERY lonely and scary place to be in. The coming out process is different for every person. Some experience anxiety, pain, anger, fear, loneliness, and even depression, while others find acceptance easier.

You don't have to tell anyone you're gay or bi if you don't want to, you should only do what seems best for you. Focusing too much on what you may lose by coming out may make you forget about what you may gain: openness and freedom to finally express yourselves openly. 

 You can never be comfortable telling people about your sexual orientation when you're not comfortable with it yourself. Accept yourself for who you are. It doesn't make you any different than anyone else. Everyone's situation is different and, therefore, everyone's process of coming out will be equally individual. 

The key is to know if you're ready, then choose the first people you tell for their potential as positive supporters. You want to stop and think about whether you are doing the right thing by confiding in certain people at this point. 


Coming out can be a risk to family and friends, isn't always a pleasant experience. One of the overriding fears of coming out is the fear of rejection from those we love. If you're dealing with someone who has a very strong opinion about gay people, you might want to come out very carefully.  Ultimately, there is no right or wrong way to come out. Whatever the response, it's likely you'll feel better about being in the open so that you can be yourself. Some family and friends have a hard time accepting a gay loved one, while others are extremely supportive. You want them to accept you, but consider that this could be hard for them, too. Yes you may lose some friends, but you will always lose a friend or two and have people that dislike you no matter what, that is just a hard fact about our society. How you deal with this situation can make all the difference between becoming a statistic or leading a healthy same-gender loving lifestyle.

Why should anyone on this planet be treated differently just because of who they choose to love. Do you really want to live your whole life with this fear that others will disapprove of you if they found out about the real you? Do you really want your whole life to be a lie just to please others? I don't think you or anybody does. If you have to lie for someone to love you, they don't really love you. 

To be out is to claim the basic human feelings of dignity, self worth and the freedom to speak, to share, to be.

Here is a support system to help you with your coming out. 
PFLAG- Parents and Friends of Lesbians and Gays. They have a lot of experience helping parents and friends overcome their initial shock and fears.