FYI… Your Lover's a Loser!

Sometimes you think you're dating a great person, but later you realized he or she wasn't really that great. Typically, in less than a few weeks of dating you'll hear you're the love of their life, they want to be with you forever, and they want to marry you. This is call the "honeymoon phase"- where they convince you that they are the best thing that ever happened to you. They want to destroy your self-esteem and convince you that you are lucky to have them because nobody else wants you. Most people know they can do better in terms of finding a better partner. But are scared to be alone, so they end up dating losers.

The loser type is a type of partner that creates much social, emotional and psychological damage in a relationship. Male losers often begin with behaviors that move you physically or hit the wall. Female losers often slap, kick and even punch their male partners when upset. The loser repeatedly puts you down. They constantly corrects your mistakes, making you feel unintelligent, and feeling that you're always wrong. He is extremely negative about your personal success, blame others (you) rather than take personal responsibility for bad choices and mistakes, and is stuck in self pity and uses failure and loss as an excuse for lack of growth and maturity.

The loser doesn't take criticism, prefers to stay the same rather than stretch, change and grow, tends to act out his or her feelings whether others are hurt or not, they never like someone who is doing well, cause he or she is jealous, and is threatened by anyone you are close to. He/she wants you to keep your opinions and belief to yourself. Public embarrassment is how they control you! He/she will encourage you to drop your hobbies, interest, and involvement with others. They will check up on you and keep track of where you are and who you're with. That person will not be sympathetic to your needs and wants. If he does not show any type of empathy about your difficult life events he will have a  hard time showing that to your friends and family.

You should never make excuses for a loser or think that you can "fix" him.