WHY DO MEN CHEAT?

Everyone knows why men cheat. Well, everyone thinks they know. Men cheat because they don't understand or don't care about the impact of their actions. Some people believe that if you truly love a person you would never cheat on them. I disagree, because that belief dictates that emotion is what drives people to cheat or remain faithful. Cheating is a conscious choice.

For many wives and girlfriends this is the mother of all questions. You have been good to him and have done what is expected of any partner and yet he still went out there and cheated on you. And it's a puzzle to you. You ask yourself the question often.

Men are emotionally driven beings too. They want their wives to show them that they're appreciated, and they want women to understand how hard they're trying to get things right." The problem is that men are less likely than women to express these feelings, so you won't always know when your guy is in need of a little affirmation.

Men cheat for a variety of reasons and some may do so for a combination of reasons. Some are a result of character flaws that he may need to seek professional help and some are the reasons below.

Infidelity is an ego boost for a man with low self-esteem especially if he’s less successful or earns less money than his.

Sometime a cheating man will have what is called an “exit affair” because he wants to end the marriage or relationship. Instead of manning up and telling you it’s over, he takes the coward’s way out, knowing that if you catch him cheating, you’ll leave him or kick him out.

Because he knows he can get away with it. He cheated before and you didn’t find out, so he’s confident he can do it again.

He’s a hardcore cheater for whom cheating is a way of life. He likes having lots of women.

He knows you’ll never leave him. He cheated before and you didn’t hesitate to take him back without making him go through any changes or holding him accountable for his behavior.

If his father, uncles, or other male role models cheated, he may be subconsciously programmed to follow their example, considering infidelity to be the norm – especially if the female role models in his life tolerated the infidelity.

Some men cheat because they know their partner will look the other way - as long as they’re discreet, keeping their infidelity low key, and avoid publicly embarrassing their mate. 

Some men will cheat even though they love the woman they're with. Men admit to cheating because they crave variety, and new experiences. And they have done so while still being very happy in their current relationship. 

He is very unhappy! Some men cheat because they are often discontent with their life. This may not have nothing to do with you as he may be going through a crisis that he doesn't know how to deal with constructively. Your communication may have been inadequate for him to talk to you and so he retreats when he is overwhelmed and in his loneliness he may find an outlet by looking for someone who can make him feel better. You could also be partially responsible for his unhappiness if you have lost interest in sex and in him.

Not every cheater is a repeat offender, but they can be- especially if they haven't worked on figuring out what drove them to in the first place or if they just don't care about anyone but themselves. 

Men aren't looking to replace the women they already have. The exception would be if he meets another woman that clearly supersedes the woman he already with. 

Most men have options. Honestly, being in a relationship might increase a man's options considering there are a certain group of women that like to go after committed men.