MY WEDDING GUEST LIST IS OUT OF CONTROL

The worst part of wedding planning is the guest list.  Who to invite? who not to invite? that was my biggest issue, because I wanted to invite everyone that I knew. Everyone who know me, know that I have a lot of friends,  family and associates, so I figured our wedding would be on the larger side.
Our off hand count was about 250, which we figured would be very costly, partly because of the summer season, month and the day. The date (06/28) is very important to me because that is our anniversary date and I wanted to keep it, no matter what anyone said, I was not letting that date go.

Most of the venues I liked were either too expensive, have funeral looking curtains (which gives me the creeps, once I see that, it's a done deal) or could only hold a capacity of up to 200 guest. I was getting a headache,  I would be on the computer all day searching, finally narrowing down to my 3 favorite spots, #1 was Abigail Kirsch at Stage 6, Steiner studio located at the Brooklyn's Navy Yard (I was in awwww, but $$$ per person). #2 was Liberty Warehouse located in Red Hook Brooklyn, which was approximately $$$ per person). # 3 was Elite palace, which is located in woodside queens ($$$). Once I saw those venues no where else mattered, I was in loveeee! but I kept thinking about their prices. We finally said F it and chose the one we were feeling the most (for me was all 3) but had to be serious, so we decided on the one that was in our budget. We made an appointment, went to look and we were like, this is it, can you say HAPPYYY! (in Pharrell's voice)

Now lets get to the cost, The one we chose wasn't as expensive as the other two, but very close, we won't disclose the price, because it was negotiable, thanks to my Matron of Honor DKW, who's in events planning.

Now the price dropped, but it was still costly, so we decided to cut the list down from 250 to 215, which was a good number, but I kept thinking who am I going to cut. My hubsy's side was already set, mostly because they were going by the list that was made from both of his sister's weddings.

My list- I wanted to be all about family (like a mini family reunion) and close friends, but it was tough because people were asking, when is the wedding? I can't wait! and I'm thinking wtf did I say I was inviting you? or better yet can I get a plus one? again, did I sayyyy, I was inviting you? I would just smile and say "I didn't do the invites as yet". I wasn't trying to be rude, but don't jump the gun.

We didn't do any save the dates, mine was called technology… texts to my family and friends
Me: text me your address for my wedding June 28, 2014.
Them: wow congrats, I'll save the date. 
Me: Ok (isn't technology great?)

Hubsy's list was 90, minus a few of his co-workers, which will probably take up the extra 10 spots. While mine is at 115, which leave some folks without a plus one, I'm sorry but I can't do anymore, I'm already way over his list, and if I could have invited everyone I would. But, the only  reason I gave a plus one is if, the person is married, have been dating someone for more than 6 months, or they won't know anyone that will be attending. I'm sorry, but if they can't understand that, there are 2 options on the reply card, It's either YES or NO