Signs Of A Jealous And Possessive Boyfriend

Your boyfriend's possessive reaffirms his love for you, and it makes you feel like you're the only girl that matters in his whole life! But there's a thin line between displaying possessiveness as a sign of love, and displaying possessiveness as a sign of control and dominance. How can you tell if he's being loving or controlling, when you just can't see the difference?

You may believe that your boyfriend is really possessive only because he loves you so much. When your boyfriend gets jealous, he’d feel insecure. And when he feels insecure, he’d become more possessive. And each time he displays his possessiveness and gets to control your behavior, it makes him feel more powerful in the relationship. 

Possessive boyfriends are like a noose around your neck. Every time you give in, their grip only gets tighter and their expectations from you only grows bigger. Every time you point out just how possessive he is, he defends himself by claiming that he’s possessive only because he loves and cares about you so much. 

He wants to know all your passwords and all your secrets, he coerces you and threatens you until he gets what he wants. 

He doesn’t like it if you meet a friend or go out anywhere without telling him about it first, even if he isn’t around. It starts small until you find yourself asking him for permission for every single thing you do.

He behaves like his entire life revolves around you. And he forces you to behave the same way around him. He wants to be the center of your world, and forces you to give him preferential attention over everyone else in your life.

He doesn’t like it if you meet a friend or go out anywhere without telling him about it first, even if he isn’t around. It starts small until you find yourself asking him for permission for every single thing you do.

It doesn’t matter who you’re talking to, but he expects you to answer his call as soon as he calls you even if you’re busy on another call. And if you ignore him because you’re busy, he accuses you of ignoring him or being a bad girlfriend.

You may not have realized this, but your boyfriend calls you up a lot more every time you go out with your friends. He doesn’t like it when you go out with your friends *without him* and constantly calls you and asks you what you’re doing and when you’re heading back home. He may sound inquisitive, but you get the feeling that he doesn’t like it when you go out with anyone but him.

Remember, not all these signs or traits in a guy are bad or dangerous for a relationship. But there’s a thin threshold between tolerable behavior and extreme possessiveness. And that threshold is different for all of us.

The only way a guy can rid himself of the cycle of jealousy and possessiveness is by confronting it himself. You can shower him with affection and make him feel loved, but there’s only so much you can do before you crumble into pieces yourself! 

He's extremely inquisitive about everything that goes on in your life. And if you don't talk about something you consider too trivial to talk about, he gets angry or sulks until you tell him all the details, all the time.

He stalks you or tries to find out where you are often when you’re out with a friend by calling you up out of the blue and telling you he wants to see you or meet you, or that he wants to pick you up. He's extremely insecure however hard you try to make him feel loved. 

He doesn't like it when you go out to meet your friends by yourself, and always insists on tagging himself along, especially if there are a few guys in your group of friends.