Part of the reason I get so angry though, is not because I always disagree. I find that women can be pretty bitchy. I guess women can be bitchy because we've been criticized our whole lives for being too thin/fat, dark/pale, short/tall, tardy, scruffy, flat chested/busty, no ass or too much ass etc etc. So we get in the habit of criticizing ourselves and others too.
It's often hard to tell if you're really being targeted or if you are simply too sensitive. You feel a mix of confusion, devastation, amusement and anger. You don't want to believe that someone in the sisterhood could possibly be doing your head in, whether consciously or unconsciously. I heard soooo many girls say they prefer to hang out with guys because other girls are just bitchy/drama.
Experience has taught me to keep my thoughts to myself and don't sweat the small stuff. If we, as women, believe in the worst of each other, what's to stop others from climbing on the bandwagon and stereotyping the female gender as a group of whiny, negative, and nasty people in search of target?
I think the concept of 'entitled to an opinion' and 'speak your mind' has been taken too far. It turns out sh*t talking and backstabbing are a natural, female survival tactic. Women have evolved to use more passive aggressive tactics to get what they want. Gossip and social exclusion are two such tactics.
Women can be so trivial and sometimes it is like walking on thin ice on knowing what to say that may be construed as an insult or criticism.
The Narcissist- a self-serving ego-centric mean girl who expects everyone to admire her. She is overly confident about her looks. No more attractive than other people, but they believe they are much better looking than other women. She is convince others are envious and jealous of her and often uses this excuse for her lack of real, intimate friendships. When her friends find successes of their own, she finds ways to punish them by downplaying their achievements. She expects you to feed her ego.
The Liar- has mastered the art of excuses, quick fibs, and charming manipulations. Never trust them, never be alone with them- they will twist whatever is said or done. They like the game, and usually escalate it.
The Incompetent- lacks knowledge, work ethic, and awareness. She makes you do the work for her or take credit for your work in order to make herself look good. her arrogance may be defensiveness or she simply may not know what she doesn't know. She will be suspicious that any information or advise from you is to show her up or is a challenge rather than support.
The Screamer- cries for attention, yells to intimidate, screams to insult, and then yells some more for good measure. Some screamers have never been told about their unacceptable behavior (because people are too afraid) That level of anger usually hides hurt or resentment.
The Toxic- is a two-faced game player who should never be trusted. She'll suck up to you and be your best friend one minute, then gossip about you the next. Keep your distance figuratively and literally. Physical closeness makes it easier for her to slime you, vampire your energy, and irritate you with her blackness.
The Insecure- micromanage everyone, trust no one, and thinks that no one knows better than she does. She is usually anxious and worried; this drives her perfectionism. She needs regular updates to allay her fears.
The Excluder- see other women as oxygen thieves if there is no personal gain from communicating with them. She can pretend you don't exist and fail to pass on important information.
The Not-a-Bitch- may have an unfortunate or disagreeable manner
IS IT WRONG TO BE A BITCHY WOMAN?
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