SHOULD YOU BE FRIENDS WITH YOUR EX?

“Let’s be friends.” It’s an easy line to drop during a break up, as it intends to ease the pain of a breaking heart. But should you be friends with your ex?

Here are 5 reasons why most (I said most, to each his own) people shouldn't be friends when the relationship is over:

1. It’s torture. One of the worst things that can happen to your dating life is staying hung up on someone who doesn't love you. You pine, and they move on. Each new person that comes your way and expresses interest is swiftly blown off, because you are desperately hoping you can rekindle the flame with your ex. If you're still seeing the person regularly, you won't see the right person if they're standing right in front of you because you'll compare him to your ex, even though your ex wasn't right for you.

2. False hope. Admit it, it’s there. And if it’s not there for you, it probably is for your ex.

3. You don’t honestly want them to be with someone else. It's human nature to be jealous or resentful when your ex finds a new person, even if the feeling have somewhat faded. Even for the person who did the breaking up, the thought of someone else taking your place in the memories that you and your ex shared is hard, and sometimes extremely painful to fathom.

4. Passion still exists. Even if your relationship was completely problem-ridden, chances are the passion and sexual chemistry between the two of you still exists (unless lack of attraction was the reason for your breakup). Sleeping with your ex is easy but emotionally unhealthy.

5. It’s not healthy. You’ve had your heart broken. Why not invest your time and energy in the people who make you happy, not the ones who’ve hurt you deeply? (And if you broke up because of betrayal, character issues, hurtful comments or incompatible values, why are you choosing to spend time with someone you’ve already learned isn’t good for you?

Leaving the past behind is hard enough, and you don't want part of your past still program in your cell phone. Having that person lingering in your life as a constant reminder makes it even harder to move on with your life, meet new people and turn a fresh page. In a perfect world, the ideal would be for exes to succeed at being friends, 

What do you think about being friends with an ex? Possible…or not probable?