Signs Your Partner May Not Want To Get Married

When you have found that special someone you want to spend the rest of your life with, it's natural to think about getting married. But does he feel the same way? This question can leave a woman wondering what she may be doing wrong in her life. 

There's nothing worse than being in a dead end relationship where you're in it for the long haul but where he may never propose. It's easy to cling to hope that maybe he doesn't want to get married right now while you continue to get emotionally invested.

• You have been with your significant other and have never met  or you're not close to his closest friends or family members even though they live nearby and your partner visits them often. If he sees  you as his potential wife, he will ensure that you're as much a part of their lives as he is, if not more.

• Your sweetie has never brought up the future or avoids talking about it with you. Conversation about the future are common in a close relationship. He freaks out when you bring up the "M" word, and you end up fighting every time you talk about the future or kids.  He changes the subject when you bring it up, he is not ready to be married.

• He talks about marriage a while back, and nothing as happened since. All you get are excuses and more excuses. He's all talk and no action.

• Getting married is serious business. He's simply not ready. But you persisted, thinking you would be the one to change him. Please keep in mind that no amount of love can make someone do something they don't want to do. If your partner flat out tells you he is not ready to commit to marriage, you have to believe what he's saying. Either keep working at the relationship until he feels ready, or move on.

• Maybe he doesn't believe in the institution of marriage. He's cool with calling you his girl, truly loves you and desires to spend the remainder of his days on this earth with you, however, the discussion of marriage is taking it to a level he is psychologically uncomfortable with. Maybe he's just a commitment phobic. Commitment phobia is a real issue that impact many men, especially those with a history of losing someone.

• While marriage is a two-party decision that should not be entered into lightly, if you have been with your partner for more than five years without discussing it, this is a warning sign. Those who have been in a relationship for several years without talks of the future or an engagement are typically happy with things as they are and don't want to pursue marriage.

• You live together and practically married, have kids and share responsibilities. Chances are he's perfectly comfortable with the arrangement and doesn't see a reason why anything should change. You have essentially taken on traditional wife duties without the title.

• When someone feels forced to be in a relationship, he will often try to leave it. If your partner have broken up more often since discussing the future, he may not be ready to settle down. 

• Some days he's extra attentive and romantic, buying you flowers and taking you out on lovely dates, while on other days he's just a jerk and won't call you for days on end without a reason. This leaves you confuse. If he's inconsistent in the relationship, it's probably because he's indecisive and doesn't know what he wants from you. And until he figures out what he wants, chances are he's not going to propose. 

• Another instance that causes much confusion in the smitten hearts of women is the man who solemnly swears to never marry… then marries the next girl he goes out with. The problem here is the incomplete sentence. When a man gives you the “I don’t want to get married” line quietly finish his sentence in your head, “I don’t want to get married … to you“. Then repeat it to yourself as many times as needed to make it firmly sink in.

Ultimately it's not about a wedding. Its not about a proposal story or a ring on your finger. It's about two people falling in love and wanting to build a life together. Marriage can be a wonderful thing, but only if both parties are equally committed.

Once you understand what exactly is holding him back from asking you to marry him then of course you can now make a decision on where your relationship goes from here. Don't fight or give him an ultimatum, just have an honest "where do we stand" discussion with him. Good luck ladies!